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straw men

Growing Straw Men in a Field of False Equivalence: Conflating HAES with Fat Acceptance

The fat acceptance debate is one fraught with logical fallacies. People who don’t support fat acceptance cite a variety of reasons. Fat is ugly. Being fat can’t be healthy. Fat people use up a disproportionate amount of resources. Accepting fat people is acknowledging fat is okay. The list goes on. Health at Every Size is […]

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The Acceptance Gap: Partners

Continued from The Acceptance Gap: Friends Definition of THE ACCEPTANCE GAP When personal and familial duties coexist with a lack of understanding and acceptance of who someone is as a person. This results in someone putting up with being judged, derided, or demeaned in the name of keeping the peace and maintaining the relationship. We have compiled vignettes submitted by readers. These […]

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The Acceptance Gap: Friends

Continued from The Acceptance Gap: Families Definition of THE ACCEPTANCE GAP When personal and familial duties coexist with a lack of understanding and acceptance of who someone is as a person. This results in someone putting up with being judged, derided, or demeaned in the name of keeping the peace and maintaining the relationship. We have compiled vignettes submitted by readers. […]

family

The Acceptance Gap: Families

Some of you may be familiar with our recent anonymous poll asking one question: Describe an experience or conflict where someone close to you didn’t support/understand the fat acceptance/body positivity movement. The purpose? Create an outlet for those who have complicated relationships with other people who do not support or understand the fat acceptance movement. […]

Every Body is Flawless

Gabi Gregg, Tess Munster, and Nadia Aboulhosn, I love you with the fire of a thousand suns. Your homage to Beyoncé’s “Flawless” video is the best thing I’ve seen in a month.    

romper

Rompers, Judgment, and Hypocrisy: Wear Whatever the Hell You Want

I used to be very judgmental of women for what they wore: You’re dressing too young. You aren’t a little girl. You don’t look professional. No one will take you seriously. Those leggings aren’t doing anything for your figure. That shirt looks trashy; it’s way too tight. Don’t you think those heels are a little […]

Both the Worldly Ikat and Bold Cutout bikini sets

Swimsuit Followup and Poll

My two new suits from Forever21 came in the mail yesterday. I was dubious because I’ve not had great experience with that store in terms of quality and sizing. They notoriously “size down” in that I am a street size XL or 1X anywhere else, but I am a 2X at F21. I went ahead anyhow and […]

for your eyes

The Fat Acceptance Fight, Part Three: F.A. Confidential

The Fat Acceptance Fight, Part Two: Too Fat, Didn’t Read, focused on the opinions of those who oppose Fat Acceptance, culled from +150 submissions I received based on a questionnaire written by supporters of Fat Acceptance. What happened when I provided a similar questionnaire to FA supporters, written by those who oppose their beliefs? Firstly, […]

No LBD

Help dress me!

Every year I attend a charity auction to raise money for the scholarship fund at my school. I have done the LBD in all of its infinite variations and want to do something different this year. I have two outfit ideas and was hoping to get some feedback from my fashionable readers. POLYVORE, ACTIVATE! These two […]

You matter

5 Things Shiloh Doesn’t Hate: March Edition

Believe it or not, dear readers, but I don’t hate everything. There are certain things I am quite fond of, and I want to share some of them with you to help break up the repetitive, indignant ranting that makes up the bulk of the content on TFW. I can be positive! The constant hating […]

notawesome

The Counter-productivity of Craigslist Revenge: How Jezebel got it wrong

Jezebel recently featured a Craigslist “missed connection” where a woman read the riot act to a man for making another woman cry on the subway by calling her fat. First, the ad-writer describes the initial interaction: You got up right before the Stony Brook stop and said something in a low voice to the woman […]

body shame

Power, Privilege, and Fatness: Why thin shaming isn’t on the level of fat shaming

Greetings, fellow naturally thin-ish people. I’d say “thin people,” but most of us are a few years past the point that the angles on our face were perfect no matter what we ate, or our asses could stop traffic. If not? We soon will be. But I’m speaking, here, to the non-fat. The wee. The […]

fox dress

Fat, Foxy Style — A Pinterest Roundup

Adorable animal clothing need not be relegated solely to the closets of cute, thin hipsters. Fat hipsters must also have access to such adorableness. We need not shy away from attention-grabbing graphics and dresses with cute prints. How cute is this skirt? Fox in the flowers, indeed! What I really like about this skirt is […]

Reblog: Why to love your double chin

The Offbeat Empire is one of my favorite repositories for body-positivity content. I was particularly pleased with this article: Why I love my double-chin laugh (and hope to see it at my wedding). This article because it expresses genuine joy about one’s appearance, not in spite of “flaws”, but because of them. When the author […]

Body Competition as Anti-feminism: A Pinterest Round-up

A reader recently suggested a topic for The Fat Word, namely the incessant fat-shame/thin-shame nastiness that is flung back and forth in the name of “self-love”. Now, while I do not consider “fat shaming” and “thin (fit) shaming” to be truly comparable (a topic for a future lengthy article in the works), I do think […]

The Fat Word: The Beginning

Starting a blog is hard. First, you need a central concept and theme. For me, the central concept started as a gripe. Actually, more like a series of interconnected gripes that bordered on angry ranting and came across as sour grapes. I am fat, therefore flawed in some way. There are vast machinations that remind me on […]

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